Saturday, November 8, 2008

Living Again

These people pray upon the trusting and unsuspecting. They look to drop the hook, set it and reel you in. You don't even know this is happening, because you are living your life as a "normal" person and don't "test" everyone who enters your world. It's amazing how these folks are. Now, my ex, is living 10+ hours from those who he calls "friends". If he had to live closer and deal with them day to day, he would be exposed for who he is. It's easier to live at least a day's drive away and deal with everyone on his terms. No surprises, no drop ins, etc. He defines the relationships and the social time. Amazing.

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

It's been a year since I've gotten free from the sociopath. 13 years of marriage, two children later and hear I am, financially devastated, emotionally drained, and still confused, but much more knowledgeable about people like him. I didn't know it was happening, although I questioned things along the way. They are very good at giving bits of truth out, just enough to make you question yourself.

He also moved a short distance away from everyone, living with his latest victim. Good luck to her, as the road will be long.

Anonymous said...

"My Sociopath", as I call her now, was my sister in law for a brief time. To me the worst possible thing that has happened, is that in some way, an important way, I feel as though I have lost a part of my innocence, my overall happiness, just for having known her, of my discovery of what she is and the treachery she wrought.

The fight is over now, as far as we know...Perhaps that's it, that she may come back like some bogey man.

She is prone to violence, she was pretty savvy for a while in the court system before she met another "victim", he must have taken her mind off of things.

It'll be a short time before she destroys someone else.

This is coupled with the fact that the Caysee Anthony case has been in the news so much. I saw her face and took to the Nancy Grace show like a moth to a flame. They look so much alike, that is probably why. This persons daughter is a little older than Caylee and they as you can imagine, look very much alike too.

Even both mother and child's birthdays are within a day of Caysee and Caylee and many troubling events associated with my sociopath have taken place on the very same days that major events were also hitting the news.

I pray a lot, I prayed just this evening that God remove her from our lives once and for all.

I am angry that I sit here still trying to comprehend people like this and she hasn't a care but for herself. I can not hardly blame her for being defective, but I do and I believe God will blame me for doing so, only because I am not defective, at least I wasn't before she entered our lives. Now I don't know.

As it would be the case, I met another "self described" sociopath today. Yes, you heard me right,it came up in conversation and he told me he was diagnosed by two Dr.s as being a sociopath. I said so you have no remorse, he blankly said "no". But then he said that it took a lot to push his buttons and that women s's were more vindictive. I think that's true.

I started thinking about it and I have probably met every 1 out of 25 people that are a sociopath. Like some kind of magnet. No wonder I'm a little twitchy.

My daughter asked me why haven't I met the other 24? Why is this???

In conclusion, Next time I meet anyone that is not a sociopath, I'm really going to be thankful.

I'm really going to try to hear them and to be touched by them and be kind to them. I need all the people that have the ability to care that I can get.

Anonymous said...

I too have survived a sociopath. It was so crazy that I had to put it in a book. Surviving A Sociopath by Kendia Perkins Coming in April 2010
A must read

Anonymous said...

Will I ever get my happy back?
I left my sociopath April 1st 2010, and I am still trying to shake him completely. He is sticky. He picked me 12/14/08 and began his work. I had been single for 8 years and was doing very well for myself, but about six months before Shane I began to feel lonely, and he sensed that.
Now a year plus later, I am completely devastated mentally and financially. I am so lost lately and fell completely out of control of my life. Do I ever find me again?

Sociopath Survivor said...

I took me over 3 years to completely get past the grips of my relationship with the sociopath. Now, I don't think he's stalking me anymore, at least I don't see any remnants of him doing so. I am not haunted by his constant control and questioning. I am truly free from the mental grip and manipulation. You will get there, it just takes time. Do something to improve you well being. Take a class, join a group, but get out of what was the norm and press yourself to improve self confidence.

Anonymous said...

OMG, so it happens again. I leave one of these guys and end up with another one who, isn't sociopathic, but has the same emotional tendencies. He wears his emotions on his sleeve and puts my business on the street. It's amazing how these types of people think you are property.

Anonymous said...

I'm currently involved in a relationship with a sociopath. The difference is that he *told* me from day 1 that he was a sociopath. I thought I could handle it.

...a month later and I'm dying inside.

He's not prone to violence - but is completely self-centered and very charming. So charming that I want to barf each time he compliments me. I don't trust him at all.

He's into pornography. Talks about sex ALL the time. Tells me about what he wants to do to me. Love his male organ and sends me pictures.

I feel violated and disrespected. ...and He feels nothing. Because he's a sociopath.

*sigh*

Anonymous said...

RE: Pornography loving sociopath. This is so common. They feel like the other sex, in this case women, are there for their pleasure only. It's a shame. Leave with you dignity and move on.

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