Saturday, January 1, 2011

Again and Again

How is it that these people find me? Is it that I am just more sensitive to their characteristics? Or, am I drawn to them. Here goes.
I was approached by someone from my past last summer via a social networking site. I had not heard from this person in years, nearly 30 years as a matter of fact. I began rehashing the past with this individual, talking about old times and what and where we had each been since. I found myself want to know more about this person. It was like a time capsule being opened up and that made me feel young again. So, I arranged to meet this person and spend some time with them. At first it was fine. But, as time went on it became apparent to me that this person was a little "off." I could not put my finger on what exactly was going on, but something was just not right. The one thing that set me off kilter was that he wanted me to move in with him before he had even physically spent any time at all with him. Just up and move in? WOW, now that's a stretch. How do you just ask someone to move in with you after almost 30 years of no contact at all. Mind you that we did not have any romantic relationship 30 years prior either. Just friends, if even that. My radar went up immediately, as it should have. But, instead of ending the "friendship" and I use that term loosely regarding this person, I found myself curious as to what he was all about. So, I let things continue and I arranged to meet him in person. We met, spend some time together and decided that we may want to see where this may go. Once I was back in my comfort zone, I realized that this was a huge mistake. He felt too much like what I previously had dealt with, a sociopath. I quickly ended things and tried to move on. Well, wouldn't you know it... He quickly started to slander me via the social network we were both members of. Sound a little like deja vu? Yep, definitely. I quickly blocked and removed everywhere he was ever at in my "on-line" communities. I felt bad for a while afterwards, thinking maybe I was jumping to conclusions about him? Well, low and behold, just last week a common "acquaintance" of both of us sent me a copy of a posting he made during one of his rants with another person. His statement was "I think I speak for all . . ." (I edited which [group] he claimed to be speaking for). But, I feel so good that I ended all contact with this individual. How in the heck can you claim to speak for all anything? WOW, sociopath egotist for sure. Another crisis adverted.