Harmless????

Moving from the idle conversation, or what I thought was idle, was the need to suck the life out of me inorder to create or mold me into something that would benefit him. This takes quite some time, but does happen all the time with a sociopath. I would offer to do things for him, take care of little things that were huge deals for him, and nothing for me. Like a phone call to someone who he did not know. This was a little strange. He did not want to encounter anyone who he was uncomfortable with. I wrote this off as shy, but it's really a control thing. If a sociopath knows you, and knows your buttons, then he calls the shots with the conversation and the games he can play. I was unaware of this trait.