Saturday, November 19, 2011

Keeping It Together

Still amazed... After 6 years and virtually no contact with the sociopath, or as I was corrected previously the "anti-social" person, in my life, there are still issues that linger with friends we have in common. Most recently, I was visiting a couple who still maintain some contact with the anti-social individual. A topic came up which I had never really discussed in detail with our mutual friends. I always tried to stay away from mud slinging in my situation. BUT, it was time to set the record straight. We sold a piece of property during our divorce, as many couples do. This property was jointly owned. The Realtor we used was a mutual business acquaintance and was contracted by both of us. She is very professional and had recently been recognized by her broker as "top realtor" when she took on the listing. My ex had known our Realtor for about 20 years, I had only known her about 4 years. The goal was to sell the house quickly so we would not have to pay a mortgage after we had both moved out. She was able to find us buyers in less than a week and the house sold. The average time on the market was less than a month, so one week was not too terribly unusual. I guess this was not what my ex wanted, so he accused her of dealing behind the scenes with me regarding price and filed a grievance against her with the state board of Realtors in our state. This was untrue and caused her a lot of pain. She had to work with the board for a year to clear this up. I was deposed for my "part" which was non-existent, and the allegations were eventually dismissed. Point being here is that all of our mutual friends thought my ex was and still think that "he's such a nice guy." Well, when the house selling came up, I told the story. I was amazing to see our mutual friends' reaction. They were shocked that he would do such a thing, and they also know the Realtor and were very familiar what she went through. They just did not have any detail into who filed and for what reason. They did not know it was a result of our listing. I think shedding the light on this was enough reality to make them doubt "what a nice guy" he really is, and that maybe he's a little sick, as I had previously told them. I know it's wrong, but I did feel a little vindication with their reaction.