Harmless . . . Continues

Once I began to let my guard down, the probing really turned on full force. I am not one to keep secrets or keep things to myself. I tend to tell people too much about me, after I feel comfortable with them. This is what a sociopath preys upon. They will only tell you things about themselves that they have rationalized and come to some sort of "that was ok, because of," it's never thinking that maybe they did something wrong. I was being suckered into telling of my past and hearing only of a past that was superficial from the sociopath. When it became redundant on his part, I should have seen this as a warning sign. He would say the same thing over and over again, as if to talk himself into believing that what he was saying is what actually occurred. This was not the case with a lot of things he was saying. After getting out of the relationship and discussing situation with his former ex-wife, it was evident he lived in a fantasy world in which he created by talking himself, sort of brainwashing himself, into a past that he could deal with. Then he began doing that with my past. I would tell him something that I had done or a decision that I had made, and he would mind F*%K it into something that he could use in the present to explain my decisions or actions. It was the strangest thing I have ever experienced, and now looking back very dangerous behaviour. Beware the person who lives in the past.......

Harmless????

Moving from the idle conversation, or what I thought was idle, was the need to suck the life out of me inorder to create or mold me into something that would benefit him. This takes quite some time, but does happen all the time with a sociopath. I would offer to do things for him, take care of little things that were huge deals for him, and nothing for me. Like a phone call to someone who he did not know. This was a little strange. He did not want to encounter anyone who he was uncomfortable with. I wrote this off as shy, but it's really a control thing. If a sociopath knows you, and knows your buttons, then he calls the shots with the conversation and the games he can play. I was unaware of this trait.

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Where does this all begin? 5 years ago, coming out of a horrible relationship, I was seduced by a close friend into a relationship that was for his service only. I knew this person as a friend, or so I thought. He was illusive and very shy. He was quiet, smart and could engage in conversation in just about any topic. I was quickly impressed with his past and his talents. He was equally impressed with my career and accomplishments. At least that's what he told me.



Seems pretty harmless? It was. Pretty straightforward, it was on the surface. Little did I know that this person was addicted to porn and performed background checks on all of his friends and family. Yes, he was talking to me and engaging in conversation about my past, which he was obsessed with, with reference to the conversation. He was so good at it, such a con artist, that I could not pick up on it. I had no reason, at that time, to think anything except that this person was very interested in me and my life. How wrong I was and the cost it would take is something that anyone who can, should avoid. Male and female alike.



I will update every couple of days until the story is told. Please add your comments as the story unfolds. You may have similar circumstances or questions about my situations that affect yours.